How to Handle Unsolicited Wedding Advice

How to Handle Unsolicited Wedding Advice

Unsolicited wedding advice is a rite of passage when you are getting married. Keep reading for advice on how to handle this wedding advice that you might encounter over the next several months.

Try to Assume the Best

A lot of people are going to give you advice about your wedding. Family members will insist on tradition, friends will tell you that you absolutely have to hire their DJ because he was the best. The good news is that you don’t have to listen to them and can still do what you want. However, it’s hard not to become annoyed if someone is particularly pushy. Try to keep in mind that the person just wants your wedding to be the best, and they truly believe their way is the best. Assume that they are coming from a place of love and it will make the unsolicited advice just a tiny bit easier to bear.

 Set Clear Boundaries

It’s one thing for someone to offer a tidbit of advice, it’s another thing entirely for them to become pushy. It is important to have clear boundaries. Let your parents, soon to be in-laws, and close friends know that their input is welcome, but that you and your fiancé don’t have to abide by it.

This is especially important if someone is paying for the wedding. Before accepting contributions, be sure to set boundaries and let that person know that just because they are contributing financially, doesn’t mean they have control over decision making. Doing this upfront will help things run smoother down the road.

Don’t Let Others Cloud Your Judgment

Everyone—including those on social media—are going to have an opinion about your wedding. But here’s the thing, it’s your wedding. That means the only opinions that truly matter are yours and your fiancé’s. It’s hard not to get influenced by the pictures and comments you see on social media or the input of friends and family but stick to your guns and go with the vision you and your fiancé have dreamed of.

Be the Bigger Person and Let it Go

It can be difficult to do, but this is the perfect time to be the bigger person and let it go. You might be annoyed that your mom is insisting that you do a cake cutting ceremony because it’s tradition, but there’s no sense letting it come between you two. It’s less stressful to simply smile, say you’ll think about it, and then move on with your life.

Enjoy It

This one might seem impossible when the unsolicited advice starts rolling in, but it’s actually a great time to let your humor shine through. After you’ve accepted the advice with a fake smile, report back to your fiancé and both of you can have a good laugh at the fact that Aunt Carol thinks you should only play Frank Sinatra music during dinner. The best way to handle unsolicited advice is to try not to let it annoy you, and instead find some humor in it.

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